Sugar

I started my sex work (SW) career as a sugar baby (SB), although at the time I considered the exchange of my time for compensation something I did occasionally when I was bored. The dream of being whisked away by a wealthy sugar daddy (SD) who takes me out to dinner and spoils me with sugar sounded all too good to be true. And it was. When you’re thrown into a pool where expectations are blurred there’s no doubt you’ll be consumed by people trying to bend the rules or exploit your kindness. I was met with men wanting to take me to dinner, but didn’t want something transactional. Constantly wanted to negotiate my rates, because mine were too “ridiculous”. Quoted me a rate for one night stands, but didn’t want professionals. Wanted to meet regularly, but didn’t have any sugar to offer. Countless meet and greets that only ended in disappointment. Men who were against and disgusted by SWers, but in reality participated in/wanted exactly that. 

For the several SDs I did see over the years I constantly felt my generosity was being abused by men who didn’t give me the same level of generosity in return. With no clear expectations I was often taken advantage of: payments shorted, last minute cancellations, boundaries pushed, unkept promises, money dangled. Overall they wanted too much for too little, and it slowly started to break me down. Although being a SB was not for me I still wanted to pursue SW, so I turned my services into a business and that’s how Isabelle Mei was born. I realised my time and efforts deserved to be appreciated appropriately, so I put my expectations for dating me into writing. This way there’s no black and white when seeing me, and I can be treated exactly how I want to be treated.

I write all this as a preface to a conversation I had recently with a client who started seeing a SB. He explained how he really enjoyed dates with SBs, because it felt more like dating where he could text in between dates, whereas escorts were only for a few hours and then they’re gone. However he stated the convenience of being able to book an escort and have them show up at your door was definitely a pro. “Like UberEats”, I joked. Although my experience as a SB was not a positive one, and similarly for many of my SB turned escort colleagues, I’m glad my client is happy in his arrangement.

The convenience of hiring an escort, as my client previously stated, is a huge pro for why many choose to book me. It’s as simple as sending screening and booking a date to have me by your side within a few hours or in several weeks, which makes it so appealing for most. No more awkward first dates that lead to nowhere or extensive texting that eventually ends in ghosting. Whether you want something short and sweet or a whole a day with me on your arm I offer a luxury girlfriend experience without the stress of a traditional relationship.

I much prefer longer and regular meets with clients, because, just like regular dating, I believe it’s the best way to get to know someone. I also offer exclusive and non-exclusive monthly arrangements for those who desire a more organic girlfriend experience. Whether you choose longer or shorter, weekly or monthly dates, more or less in between date communication I offer a variety of services to allow clients to shape a relationship that works for them. There are so many forms of SW, but I find escorting to be the most fulfilling by far. I meet the most respectful men, build the most enriching relationships, and I finally receive the same level of generosity that I provide.

While this isn’t a post on whether you should go find yourself a SB or hire an escort it does shed some light into my experiences working in both worlds. Hopefully you’ve learned to understand why many SBs turn to formalising their services into a businesses, why there’s absolutely nothing wrong with transactional companionship, and that escorts offer far more than just short trysts.

To close this post I just want to thank everyone I’ve seen as Isa. By booking a date with me you demonstrate your appreciation of my time and generosity, and that’s all I’ve ever wanted in my SW career. 

Xo Isa